Limiting screen time for kids is becoming more and more important as technology replaces so much of what we do
With smartphones, the average screen time your child is exposed to has likely gone up!
When we first had kids, we were going to exclude TV and screens until our kids were two years old. Then, reality hit. Sometimes, mama needs a babysitter before she loses her mind. Elmo was a great babysitter.
Screen time = Bad behavior
When we started to pay attention to how much screen time our kids were getting, we learned our sweet precious angels turned into little terrors after watching television.
It took a while to see the correlation before we started to limit screen time for our kids.
At first, we thought they were up too late to finish a movie. Then we thought, maybe their nap wasn’t long enough, or it was time for a nap, or they were hungry.
Finally, one day I realized it was the screen time. Every time my kids had screen time, they turned into holy nightmares.
In a fed up state, I banned all screen time for two entire weeks. That was a HARD punishment to keep.
Life without screens
Those two weeks without screen time were HARD and WONDERFUL. We were never big TV watchers, but having no TV made it easy to see just how much we still depended on it for entertainment.
We had to get creative with our time. Our Friday movie nights turned into game nights.
While game night is fun, teaching toddlers how to lose makes a mama want an extra glass of wine!
I learned in those two weeks that we didn’t need screen time to have fun and we’ve never looked back.
How we manage limiting screen time for our kids
Now, we have a very structured schedule for screen time.
Our two elementary aged kids get screen time twice a week. They get one movie on Friday night and two hours of cartoons on Saturday morning. That’s it.
That equates to four hours of screen time in one week.
The kids get no screen time during the school week. There are rarely exceptions made.
Set a schedule for screen times
Decide when and how long you will allow your kids to watch TV every week.
Tell your family the new schedule and stick to it. If you make exceptions, they WILL remember. You will be opening yourself up for begging and pleading for screen time you used to allow and are now trying to limit.
Allowing one agreed upon movie every week has turned into a wonderful family tradition. We make homemade pizzas and then tune in. We also skip baths!
If Friday night movie is missed for whatever reason, we do allow a reschedule on a weekend night.
Don’t give your kids screens
Don’t give your kids screens, and you will be able to easily limit screen time.
This means take the TV out of their room if there is one in there. You can probably survive on one TV in the home, in a shared area.
Kids under 12 don’t need their own cell phones. If you get them one for safety reasons, you can limit their access. Use parental controls and place the phones in a charging station when they are home.
Kids under 12 don’t need their own tablets. There, I said it. Kids will get plenty of exposure to screens while at school. They don’t need more time at home.
Kids need time to play, read, or do other creative activities when home. They don’t need a screen to entertain them.
What do the kids do after school with no screen time?
I don’t let my kids watch a show while I make dinner. They can play outside (yes, even in the freezing cold), play inside or help make dinner. They can do homework or build something.
I also let my kids be bored.
Let your kids be bored
Let your kids be bored. They will surprise you. Sure, if they are used to a ton of TV, they will whine and complain for a while. Let them. They will adjust. You will adjust. I promise.
When kids are bored, their imaginations run wild. They will build a fort, play outside, read, and pretend play. The possibilities are endless when you give them the time to actually use their minds.
TVs don’t allow a child to practice with their imaginations. Sorry. Even the educational shows don’t allow for enough learning and creativity. Nothing teaches a child like experiencing actual life.
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Lead by example
We limited our kids’ television time and also limited our own screen time. Lead by example and your kids will follow.
We don’t put on the news while dinner is cooking because inevitably, they end up staring at the TV instead of playing, even if they don’t understand what’s being said.
We watch one show together at
When kids don’t see you watching television all the time, they will start to want to mirror that example, well into adulthood.
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Save money and cut cable
When you stop watching television all the time as a family, you will realize you don’t need a crazy expensive cable bill and may join the many cord cutters.
You can save so much money by dropping cable. We have Hulu, Netflix and Amazon Prime video. While that’s probably way too much, we pay $17 a month for Hulu and Netflix. (I don’t count Amazon. We pay for it regardless!)
My kids get to watch TV that is ad-free and monitored by me. I hate television ads and the impact they have on small, impressionable minds. By cutting cable, I have a little more control over this and get to save money on my TV monthly bill!!
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TV ads contribute to a life of excess
When we cut TV, we didn’t realize we were severely limiting our children’s influence by advertising and marketing. When it comes to gift time, their requests are not the latest popular toys because they don’t know they exist!
Their only knowledge of toys is what they see in the store. They pick what appeals to them, but it is not because of a TV commercial. I love that.
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Cut out You Tubechild
Going back to letting your child be bored, don’t use YouTube as an entertainment option when your child is bored.
YouTube is like TV, but uncensored. Before you know it, your kid’s princess show turns into an inappropriate video made by some teen. Even with the parental controls on YouTube, blindly handing your child your phone or tablet can lead to unnecessary screen time and possible inappropriate material for your child’s age.
Limiting screen time for kids is possible
Limiting screen time for your kids seems scary when TV is your go-to form of entertainment. However, you can limit screen time for your kids fairly easily. Take it one day at a time. If you falter, start again the next day.
If it has rained for a week straight, break out a movie. Your main goal is to not let TV become your primary source of entertainment. It will be painful at first, likely for everyone involved, but you will create a new normal without TV for your kids.
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We were never allowed TV after school. We could watch in the evenings after homework, but only one 30 minute show as a family. Then we played games and read books. I’m always sad when I see families in different rooms all doing their own thing. #DreamTeam
Seeing families split between rooms watching TV or staring at screens alone makes me sad too. I love watching a movie with my kids on Friday night, or involving them in cooking dinner. They get so excited when they get to be the “chef” that night and do all the major helping.
Wow four hours a week! I disagree that screen time is totally bad – my little boy learns absolutely loads from watching certain programmes. For me it’s all about being careful what they’re watching as well as how much. For example I don’t let him watch You Tube as it’s mostly rubbish on there. And if like me, you had newborn twins and a two year old and a husband that worked away there would be a lot more than four hours a week just so that you could physically get things done such as feeding your babies! I don’t think it’s a lazy way to entertain your kids, sometimes you do what you have to do to get through it! And that’s totally okay. #ItsOK
I totally agree with being careful about what they watch! If only this parenting gig came with a handbook. Lol!
Wow, I’m impressed! I never wanted my daughter to have a lot of screen time, but, working at home has made it a reality. I try to stick with PBS and select movies, and we only have Amazon Prime and the PBS kids app, but it can be difficult. She’s 3 and incredibly active and sometimes I just need to know that she’s sitting in one spot and not getting into all kinds of things (haha). This does motivate me to make a more stable schedule of when she’s allowed to watch things though. It definitely makes a difference and I can tell when she’s had too much screen time.
Honestly, bad behavior was a huge motivator! My youngest isn’t impacted so much by screen time, but it really bothers my oldest. Life actually got easier when we limited it for her.
We mamas know what’s best for our kiddos! This is just what works for us. 🙂
I want parents to know if they are seeking less screen time for their kids, it is possible and the first two weeks are probably the hardest! Then it becomes your new norm. We don’t even think about it anymore. 🙂
Life was great till they were little – and then they became teenagers – and suddenly we realized there was pin drop silence in the house. . . . they were all happily cooped up in their rooms with headphones and playstation or netflix or youtube,…
Its an ongoing battle with them …
Why o why did they grow up !!
fyi – my boys are 16, 17 and 19
Oh I can imagine the silence! LOL. It is a different world now. I honestly don’t have experience with teenagers yet in this digital age, just little ones. Good luck mama! Limiting screen time for teenagers would be a battle, I’m sure.
Brooke,
I can SO resonate with this post! We consider ourselves to be ‘screen-light’ around here, and it has seriously been SO great. I hated seeing my daughter’s eyes glaze over and her mood shift immediately after watching TV. It’s a struggle as she gets older, but I’m so glad we do it. My kiddo just started Kindergarten this year and it’s crazy how much TV they watch there.
Thanks so much for this post! I’m totally on the same page — limiting screen time has made our lives so much easier!